Being told to be thankful or grateful when you aren’t in a good space can be rather annoying. I personally don’t think it is helpful to say these things when some one is struggling and in need of support. Listening, being supportive and non-judgemental as well as adding in something that is actually helpful or beneficial, for example ‘the way you are feeling is perfectly understandable, I’m glad it wasn’t any worse’ or ‘I know how much you are struggling, it’s a good thing you have such as x, y, z in your life’.
At the end of the day we are the only ones who can choose to be grateful and thankful for the things we do and don’t have in our lives. No one else can do it for us and being told to be grateful is just annoying. It is an internal decision, a daily choice to be thankful for our lives and everything in it. Always look for the good, no matter how down you are or how difficult things life is. There is always something to be thankful for. At the very least, you had the opportunity to learn, grow and become a better person. Through your experience you may even be able to help or guide others.
When we regularly practice forgiveness our awareness moves from the lack in our live to the things we do have. This results in feeling more fulfilled and opens us up to receiving more. What you focus on grows, we have the choice whether to focus on how we are deficient and without or how we are blessed and abundant. I know I choose to always be grateful, my life seems much enjoyable when I think this way. It doesn’t mean it is easier but the difficult isn’t as difficult. Everything just flows a little bit better, like a car does when adding oil.